I love taking a piece of bondage gear and seeing how many different ways I can use it. This helps exercise my brain. In this experience, I place BondageFan70 into three challenging positions with the double iron rigid cuff, which is a mean piece of metal gear that locks a person in with just one *****! We attempted a fourth position, which was not a success. And since the making of this video, another position came to mind!
I also love putting bondage ***** who have a difficult time expressing when they need out of bondage into physically challenging bondage so they can practice tapping out. Needing to come out of bondage is not a bug - it’s a feature of the game! It is very natural for some aspect of the bondage to become too much to handle, but it’s also part of the fun of a power dynamic. If the bottom doesn’t express where they are at physically (i.e. “my hip flexors are screaming,” “my hands are loosing circulation”, etc) or mentally (i.e. “it’s scary being in this hood,” “I am worried I will fall,” “do you know what you are doing?!” etc) then the top doesn’t have the fullest picture of the situation, which - trust me on this - is a lot less fun for both parties. I have played with many bondage bottoms who seem to think that not expressing any suffering is the goal. Now, I fully understand that many bottoms are wanting to challenge themselves by pushing through discomfort - I am one of those bottoms myself, but pushing yourself doesn’t necessarily mean internalizing. It’s all about the dynamic between people. Imagine trying to play a game with someone in a coma? It’s not that engaging. Why would it be fun to play bondage games, then, with someone who doesn’t emote? It’s not. When you play with a person who doesn’t express that much through words, then hopefully they are making some sounds and/or body movements to communicate a little bit about their experience. In my opinion, the expression of ones suffering is one of the most powerful gifts that bondage play offers to us. The ability to express our suffering, and the ability to witness ones suffering. It’s truly powerful.
Anyway, all this is to say that I wanted BondageFan70 to practice expressing when he needs out of bondage. As you will see from this video, he has difficulties doing so verbally without being prompted, though he nourished me with some grunting and foot-shaking as communication to me that he was struggling. I trust we will have more practice on this subject in the future :)
